That will be the name of my book. When I retire. When I write it. There have been a lot of those moments -- things that make you go "Hmmmmm"...and that could be followed by an !! or a ??....or even a !?! It will be my "soapbox" because so many of these "Hmmmmm" moments are unnecessary.
I believe most of those moments or things can boil down to one common denominator: communication. I recall a professional development session years ago where the speaker was talking about responsibiilty and accountability. While you are responsible for what you say, you cannot be accountable for how it is received. That is up to the other person/people. We have to be clear on our intentions and in our meaning with the words we use. That is the limit of our responsibility.
Why then, do people fail to take accountability for how they receive/hear things, and immediately repell blame as if they were wearing teflon? Would it not be simplier to ask if you understood? To seek clarification? Are folks so "rich" in friends and acquaintances that they can dispose of people based on a few words and without regard?
I value my friends. I enjoy meeting new people. I thrive on the energy from others. I enjoy the learning, the sharing, the laughter. I don't make decisions for others without consultation. I don't "assume" (we all know how that word breaks down!), or judge on assumptions. I will seek out facts. I will ask, question and restate.
Maybe this is why it amazes me when people make incorrect assumptions, take drastic or definitive (and often petty) actions, and expect that puts them firmly on the high road to righteousness.
Not on my map.
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Hi Gail :) This is Rose from Ravelry. I agree with you on this. I recently had an experience with my best friend with this. It's really heartbreaking thinking that the other person really understood it specially when they are that kind of person who is very understanding. A bit of a long story but it is frustrating to deal with.
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